The other day a good friend of mine asked me this question and I came to a new realization that couldn’t come from an answer to his question.
Constantly we are being told that we are not good enough.
The media, large companies, and society are often contributing to this message that you are not good enough and need to do something to be accepted or approved of.
Through TV ads and public perceptions that are largely distorted people come to think that they don’t have what it takes or that they won’t be able to achieve the kind of success that they see others having on the TV or on Youtube.
This thinking also goes so far back in business.
In a competitive mindset, I would need to differentiate myself, make myself stand out, or be something different so that I am noticed and succeed in business.
This thinking leads someone down a path of paying attention to other people and marketing against their competitors.
This is all a waste of time.
In being challenged by my friend I came to the new realization that it is not so much how you are different from anyone else, but rather that you just put yourself out there.
It’s not that I am discounting that what you have to offer is something that someone else doesn’t have to offer, but rather the focus is what is important. The far more powerful focus is that I will do me and put myself out there as much as possible.
For an even more complete example let’s look at dating. I used to think it was about being different or the things that you would do or not do, but instead it is just about being who you are and giving others the chance to see yourself.
What is most inspiring is that by just being who you are people are going to love you. It isn’t a matter of acting different or showing them that you are different from your competition, but rather you just allow yourself to be the real you and let others experience that you.
Don’t get me wrong, there will be people who are not your fans and people who want nothing to do with you, but there are people waiting to be your fans. There are people waiting to be inspired, hoping and wishing for something to believe in. Allow them to find you. When you don’t put yourself out there you are letting them down.
So amongst all of these messages that you need to do things to be different and stand out or that you are not already good enough, find your true you and put yourself out there.
The truth of the matter is that we are all different and when we shine through with our true colors in ways that are real for us, this is where we get the chance to connect with others in ways that are more expressive.
The question is not what makes you different from anyone else.
Let yourself go and reveal who you are really are. Don’t worry about being different, but rather focus on giving your gift to the world.